A Personal Introduction from the Founder of Sit Stay Explore
As the founder of Sit Stay Explore, I’ve encountered my fair share of challenging situations in the world of housesitting. Two experiences, in particular, stand out and highlight the importance of clear communication and boundaries when it comes to third parties during a sit.
In one instance, after arranging a four-month sit, the homeowner asked if it would be okay for her husband to return three times during the stay for business purposes. In another situation, I wasn’t informed until I had already begun the sit that the homeowner’s husband would be returning for a week, also for business.
As a single woman, these scenarios made me incredibly uncomfortable. The first situation allowed for discussion, albeit after the initial arrangement was made. However, the lack of disclosure in the second case left me feeling vulnerable and ultimately led me to end the sit early.
These experiences underscore the critical need for transparency and open dialogue between homeowners and housesitters. They’re the reason I’m passionate about addressing this often-overlooked aspect of housesitting arrangements. Let’s delve into the complexities of managing third-party presence during housesits and how both sitters and homeowners can navigate these waters more effectively.
The Unspoken Rule: Clear Communication
Many housesitting platforms have strict policies against third-party presence during sits. However, real-life situations aren’t always as clear-cut. Homeowners might spring last-minute changes on sitters, such as:
1. A family member unexpectedly staying behind
2. The homeowners themselves returning for a brief period
3. Friends or relatives dropping by for extended visits
These scenarios can create awkward situations and potentially compromise the housesitter’s comfort and privacy.
Common Scenarios and How to Respond
Scenario 1: The Surprise Stay-Behind
You arrive at the house, only to find out that the homeowners’ adult child will be staying for the duration of your sit.
Possible Response: Express your concerns politely but firmly. “I wasn’t aware there would be someone else here during my stay. Can we discuss how this might affect my responsibilities and living arrangements?”
Scenario 2: The Midweek Return
Halfway through your sit, the homeowners inform you they’ll be returning for a two-day business trip.
Possible Response: Clarify the situation. “I appreciate the heads-up. Could we discuss how this affects my role during those days? Will you need privacy, or should I make myself scarce?”
Scenario 3: The Frequent Visitor
You discover that a close friend of the homeowners has a key and frequently drops by unannounced.
Possible Response: Address this with the homeowners. “I’ve noticed X has been visiting regularly. For security reasons, I’d feel more comfortable if I could be informed about expected visitors in advance.”
The Bedroom Dilemma: Main Suite vs. Guest Room
One particularly tricky aspect of housesitting is sleeping arrangements. Some sitters feel uncomfortable using the homeowners’ main bedroom and prefer a guest room. Others might find themselves unexpectedly relegated to a guest room due to changes in plans.
If You’re Assigned the Main Bedroom:
1. If you’re uncomfortable, it’s okay to ask for alternatives. “I appreciate the offer of your main bedroom, but I’d feel more at ease in a guest room if one’s available.”
2. If no other options exist, consider bringing your own sheets or asking the homeowners to provide fresh linens.
If You’re Unexpectedly Moved to a Guest Room:
1. Ensure the room meets your needs. “Could you show me the guest room setup? I want to make sure it has everything I need for a comfortable stay.”
2. If the guest room is significantly less comfortable, it’s fair to discuss compensation adjustments, especially for longer sits.
Protecting Your Peace: Tips for Housesitters
1. Clear Communication: Always discuss expectations thoroughly before agreeing to a sit.
2. Get it in Writing: If possible, have the homeowners confirm the living arrangements and any expected visitors in your agreement.
3. Know Your Limits: It’s okay to decline sits that make you uncomfortable.
4. Be Flexible… to a Point: While some flexibility is good, don’t let it compromise your wellbeing or the terms of your agreement.
5. Trust Your Instincts: If a situation feels unsafe or uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to address it or, if necessary, end the sit early.
Remember, as a housesitter, you’re providing a valuable service. You deserve to feel comfortable and respected in your temporary home. By addressing these issues upfront and maintaining open communication, you can ensure a positive experience for both you and the homeowners.
At Sit Stay Explore, we believe in fostering trust and transparency between homeowners and housesitters. By sharing these experiences and insights, we hope to contribute to a safer, more enjoyable housesitting community for all.